Married Woman Says Her Single Friend Makes ‘Weird Backhanded’ Comments

A married woman has seemingly fallen out of favor with her best friend. 

The woman chronicled how her friendship crumbled on Reddit’s popular “Am I the A——” forum in a post shared on Sunday, April 27, explaining that her friend started making “weird backhanded” comments about her busy post-engagement lifestyle.

“I had met a man who I fell for, and we got engaged,” wrote the 22-year-old woman, who met her 21-year-old friend two years ago at their job. “My life quickly took a turn toward maturity. We bought a house, got a dog and started discussing making a family after the wedding.”

“It was about 3 weeks before the wedding that she would constantly ask me to go out and party with her. I would tell her no, as I simply do not have time for this in my life,” she continued. “I would try to invite her to do small things, like getting our nails done, or shopping for the wedding and she always declined and said it was too boring for her.”

That’s when the friend started making “weird backhanded remarks” about the then-bride-to-be always being too busy because of her fiancé.

The friend then went through some dating troubles with a colleague.

“She yelled at me for not being there for her during a hard time,” she recalled. “I stopped talking to her altogether. I was very tired by her constantly demanding my time. She lit up on me, calling me a bad friend, and said how ever since I got into a relationship, my priorities changed.” 

“I very respectfully told her that’s what happens when people get married, and that I was wanting a friendship that’s more mature than going out drinking and having slumber parties,” she added. “She then accused me of using her for fun over the summer and how she can’t be friends with me if there’s a man in my life because apparently that’s all that matters to me.”

Feeling “pretty insulted” by her friend’s reaction, she still admitted that “I did value our friendship and I do miss her a lot.”

Readers of her Reddit post were divided about the situation.

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“[Not the a——]. Things change in life, and sometimes people’s level of maturity raises faster or slower than others,” one person replied. “I know people in their 30s still partying like they’re in high school. I know 20-year-olds with a mortgage and family. Neither one is necessarily wrong, but sometimes that causes people to grow apart.”

Meanwhile, another commenter wrote, “[You are the a——]. You will be wishing she was there with you after your flash romance fizzles.”